Another one of my friends is brewing up a human being.

As the third girl from my high school group to produce offspring, I’m getting used to pregnancy news being less “friends push friends down the stairs” and more “huzzah for fertility”. I’m more nonchalant about committed relationships and the melding of lives, names and assets. I’m growing accustomed to people becoming actual adults. But that does not mean that this sort of behaviour doesn’t scare the shit out of me.

As I sit here wearing a Super Grover pyjama top in my big room full of useless knick-knacks I cant imagine parting with (my scale model of the golden snitch, for example) to make room for someone’s personal items, I can’t shake the feeling that I’m in a different place to some of my friends. Creating life seems so overwhelmingly daunting that I’m getting a headache.

Yes, we all know there are some certain downsides to farming humans. For one, you belly button may change forever. Number two: you can’t eat soft cheeses, amongst other things for the whole nine months (that one’s hitting my preggo pal hard. Here’s an actual quote: “I can’t eat an soft cheese; it’s like living in a third world country”.) And number three is pretty darn unpleasant, in that they have to snip at the skin between the anus and the vagina SO IT DOESN’T TEAR OPEN DURING THE BIRTH LIKE IT’S THE FUCKING BANNER FOOTY PLAYERS RUN THROUGH IN THE GRAND FINAL. I don’t understand why this stuff isn’t outlined in sexual education classes. Nothing is going to convince a girl to use a condom quite like the prospect of having her gooch sliced open.

But for now, let’s leave aside the episiotomies and the feeling like a sow being suckled by ravenous, soulless piglets – what about all the decisions you make at the time that you’ll inevitably grow to regret later on?

The name of said infant, I feel, could very well be one of those rueful decisions. What if you’re going through a phase and name them after your favourite politicians and then realise five years down the track that said politicians were schmucks? What if you think you give your child a “unique” name and only to realise that “unique” name is shared by some Latino pop star who releases songs about lying hips? What if, for some reason, you accidentally think it’s cool to name all your children with the same letter?

How can we trust our current selves to make decisions our future selves will have to deal with? You only need to watch ten minutes of Tattoo Disasters or The Simple Life to realise that decisions can come back to haunt you. Calling your daughter NutMeg is like hiring your best friend’s older sister’s boyfriend’s cousin’s dealer to draw that butterfly on your skin. I don’t want to equate my child with Paris Hilton’s toe rings or Nicole Ritchie’s train-driver-cap-and-boobtube combo. These things were all excellent ideas at the time but upon looking back … well, you just don’t want to.

Naming a child isn’t something you can do flippantly – it’s what that little bastard is going to have to live with. So as much as you might want to call them Thrillhouse, you’ve got to not be a dick and give them something sensible.

The trouble is that I can’t trust that my definition of sensible now will align with what I determine “sensible” is in fifteen years. I worry that the decisions I make now will be big mistakes. After just flicking through my old MySpace page, I am more than aware that Future Dannielle is doomed to an eternity of headshaking at what Past Dannielle deemed appropriate in her time. This is where I was hoping to show you how cringe-worthy Past Dannielle was compared to Present (and incredibly sophisticated) Dannielle in an attempt to illustrate how much we grow to rue our decisions of yesteryear.

You see, I was one of those people on MySpace who filled out those long, indulgent questionnaires you could post (and people would actually read them – those were the golden days. Now that MySpace is chopped liver and Facebook is the queen of summertime, no one wants to read about whether you liked autumn or winter better, and people are too busy to care what questions you could answer by hitting “shuffle” on your five-centimetre-thick ipod.). I have just spent the better part of my Sunday night attempting to gain access to my old MySpace account in an attempt to revive some of the quizzes 16-year-old Dannielle thought the world needed to read and analyse those answers accordingly. Unfortunately I stopped using the email address attached to my MySpace account because it was terrible.

That there, I suppose is an example in itself.

What I’m trying to say is that I can’t trust myself to name a human being when I can’t even burden the shame of a cringe-worthy email address. Because, unfortunately, you can’t ignore an infant for long enough that it becomes deactivated like you can with an email address; apparently that’s some kind of felony, or something.